Dear Harriet: I’ve been partying pretty hard since the pandemic started. It’s been a good two years. To be honest, it might take a little longer. Partying means drinking, smoking, and hanging out. Most of the time it’s not that big of a deal. Your stomach may hurt a little, but then pull back.
Anyway, while I was out with friends this summer, I noticed that my stomach was getting really sick. I have loose bowels quite often and I’m not holding food down very well. I’m sure I’ve done this myself, but now I need to know what to do. — sick stomach
Dear Nausea Stomach: Congratulations on waking up and realizing that your body needs help. Any form of overdose can harm your body. Your over-selection may be affecting your liver, kidneys, and other organs and systems in your body. I have. Be honest with your doctor about what you are doing, how long and to what extent. don’t hold back. Tell your doctor everything so they have a clear picture of your behavior and intake. Once you have a checkup, follow what has been prescribed to heal yourself.
You can also consider psychological counseling to help you face the challenges you’ve been drowning in. And, of course, drink lots of water.
Dear Harriet: I was so upset about what my husband did in the past that I couldn’t have a good idea of him. All, and if not, complaining about him. In many ways, he deserves it. He hasn’t stepped up to fulfill the basic responsibilities he needs to accept and handle. It pisses me off that he could dwindle some simple but important things and put us in a deep financial hole because of negligence. Yet he is kind and helpful, funny and kind too.
I recently spent most of the summer away from each other and have started to remember the good things. Maybe I need to figure things out. can you approach? – second chance
Dear Second Chance: This awakening about your marriage could not have come at a better time. You are already giving time to this relationship and life. Before you walk away, you need to decide if you can rekindle your love and vow to each other to move forward.
Sit down with your husband and be really honest. Tell him how you feel, including your lack of trust in the union. Describe your frustrations and fears. Then add a recent memory of a life you shared with the man you married, imagine what the future might look like if you worked with her husband. Point out what he needs to do to be a positive partner in your life together. Ask him if he wants to rekindle your bond and strengthen your relationship. Go. That support can be invaluable to get you back on course.
Harriette Cole is a life stylist and founder of DREAMEAPERS, an initiative that helps people access and activate their dreams. Questions can be sent to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
