I once asked my cousin if there was anything he wanted to change about himself.
“You should wear more makeup,” she replied quickly.
At the time, in my prepubescent naivety, I valued her words so much. I remember feeling deadly embarrassment when she said that.
Of course I know better now. Fashion choices and makeup, or lack thereof, are incredibly powerful tools of self-expression. reserve. However, this simple truth is often masked by the cheating that is prevalent in our culture.
Some women are constantly bombarded with unsolicited weight loss tips, while others are literally force-fed at dinner parties to gain more weight. Some are forced to wear more makeup, while others are teased and told to “tone down a little.” Girls with acne and scars are given unsolicited skincare advice all the time, and dark-skinned girls are encouraged to consider skin-lightening treatments. It doesn’t matter if you have a health problem or are already suffering from a low self-image.
Ignoring our mental and physical health is not only inhumane, but it is also clearly very dangerous. May cause eating disorders. In addition, non-medical skin care advice can wreak havoc on your skin. Moreover, verbal dissection and devaluation of the body may contribute to the development of various mental illnesses in a person.In our culture, most people do not have access to mental health services and information. Given that fact, the consequences of receiving unsolicited advice could potentially be extreme.
It may be ironic that in a culture that insists on being gracious and polite, rudeness like giving unsolicited beauty advice is such a common practice. But the answer to this conundrum is very simple: patriarchy. Most people who spout advice about all the imperfections of girls’ bodies do so because our culture has subconsciously taught us to look at the “desirability” of girls first and foremost. This may also be the reason why men rarely receive such scrutiny when it comes to their bodies. Besides, it’s not their appearance that society is concerned with anyway.
Unfortunately, receiving unsolicited beauty advice is probably what our generation will have to wait for. can be educated. Otherwise, feel free to deal with it in healthy ways, such as walking away from the offender or repeating positive affirmations in your head. After all, your beauty is not swayed by an unwelcome voice.
Fabiha is secretly a Lannister noblewoman and a Slytherin alum. I pledge my allegiance and soul to her at her aifafabiha01@gmail.com